I prefer what I call grey moments, where an outside influence tears the lovers apart. Let's say a criminal or mentally unstable abductor, or a conniving ex-spouse, or even a health issue. Simply put: external influences.
Sometimes couples realize their goals in life are just too different, their likes too dissimilar or their life-long habits too grating on the other person's nerves. It's a slow realization that this relationship, no matter how much they care for each other or how strong the physical chemistry, just won't work for the long haul. To me, these are blue moments because the couple involved are emotionally suffering over the potential end of their togetherness.
They're not explosive black moments. I've read a zillion of those and I think for God's sake, talk to each other. Be honest. Be sincere. Be mature.
So a well-written argument or situation that drives the two apart has to be strong. For me, instant relationship killers are infidelity, abuse or stealing. But editors want us to shy away from those things. Romance, we're told involves that black moment. And I'm so poor at it. In some stories, it almost flows into place and settles, like the last piece of a puzzle. Unfortunately, I can count those times on three fingers.
Yet, we all know the path of true love is never smooth--or colorless. It's black, grey, blue--or rosy pink. Take book two of my "Wild Heat" series for HarperImpulse. This couple has a lot of big and little things playing against them. They've both been hurt by the things life can throw at you and are afraid to truly love. Yet love charges in the door along with the hero's three rescue dogs.
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