Sunday, February 7, 2016

Life Happens by Barbara Edwards

Most writers will tell you life happens. The work is going good and instead of creating a great plot, reality plops a load of poop on you. I had that happen. And I haven’t written anything for almost a month.
My husband was diagnosed with cancer. He’s going through treatment and my life has squeezed down to doctor visits, then chemo treatments, and finally the surgery to remove the affected area. 
It’s been a strange journey. As many older men, my husband had to get up to empty his bladder during the night. He complained and I nagged him to go to a urologist. The doctor recommended he have his prostate trimmed and the eurethra opened. Its a family common operation. My husband wanted to wait until we returned from out winter months in Florida. 
I did my usual nag, nag nag. Get it done before we go or you’ll be up every night and complaining all winter. 
He went in for surgery at the end of November. 
The doctor called me from the operating room. He found a growth in the bladder. Did I want him to remove it or wait until my husband woke up, gave his permission and then put him under again. I said go.
So he has bladder cancer. Stage two or three.
Next is have chemo. December is going to the clinic, the doctor, bloodwork and he can’t tolerate the chemo. It’s hurting his kidneys and that’s bad.
So the removal is scheduled. Okay. I asked a to of questions, did research on the web, ask more questions. There’s not much alternative.
So two weeks ago he goes in for major surgery. Take out the bladder, the prostate, two lymph nodes and cut a section from his small intestine to make the new ducts to drain his kidneys.
A major operation, but the area is clear of anything strange and they are doing biopsies of the removed tissue.
The good part? If he’d waited the extra six months, it would have been stage four.
The other good part? He’ll be able to resume his life.
Hopefully I will too. I have three books waiting for me. 
My advice to all of you? I don’t have any. Life happens.

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Jannine Gallant said...

Oh, Barb, what a nightmare. I'm keeping positive thoughts for you and your husband and hoping you'll both be back to your normal lives soon!

Susabelle said...

Life sure does happen. I've not gotten as much writing done this winter either, as I'd planned or hoped for. Lots of life gets in the way. Best wishes to you and your husband as you go through this together. I wish him a full recovery.

Margo Hoornstra said...

Concentrate on the good parts, Barb. They found it, and they'll fix it. I've been where you are with a husband's health scare. We're back to normal now. You will be too. Positive thoughts and best of luck!

Liz Flaherty said...

Thoughts, prayers, and good vibes are with you and your husband.

Rolynn Anderson said...

You are doing what you can (and nagging at the perfect times). Keep at what works and store those great memories along the way. Mush on! Women are good at this mushing business!

Diane Burton said...

Barbara, my heart goes out to you & your husband. It's such a good thing that you nagged him to go to the doctor. It sounds like you made the right decisions and hopefully he will be able to get back to resume his life soon. And so will you. Life does happen. We just have to roll with the punches.

Brenda Whiteside said...

I'm late chiming in and everyone else has said it all. Positive though, Barbara!

Nikki said...

Best wishes to you and your husband, Barbara. I'm pulling for you! Hope all goes well and you're both back on track soon.

Leah St. James said...

I'm late too, and so very sorry that you and your husband are having to deal with such a horrible and scary situation. Like the others, I'm hoping you'll both be back to your "old" normal quickly.

Alicia Dean said...

Oh my gosh, I am so, so sorry. What an awful and scary thing to deal with. I will be praying all goes well.