Have you ever said "I have no choice?" This is one of my most hated phrases. There is always a choice, or even choices. Many, many years ago my father-in-law was explaining to me why he did something he hated doing. It's been so long ago, I can't remember what, but I think it might have been what he did for a living. He told me sometimes in life, you have to keep doing what you hate. I was very young, about twenty, and I suppose he thought he was tasked with imparting some deep wisdom. Being the uninhibited person I was (am?), I said, but why? For instance, if you hate pancakes, why would you get up everyday and eat pancakes? It sounded smarter at the time, but you can see my youthful idealism.
I still abide by it. Never settle. You always have a choice in life, no matter the circumstance. Granted, your choices may be bad and worse, but you can't always determine that until after the fact. Afraid to make a choice? What's the worst that can happen? You chuck it aside and try something else.
There's a saying I love that is credited to Lucille Ball:
"I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done."
So go for it, whatever it is. Make the choice and own it!
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