Years ago, when I was a wide-eyed
eighteen-year-old dating this really cute guy, we were hanging out at his house
for a movie night. He asked if I’d ever seen Sleepless in Seattle. I said no. A shame since I love You’ve Got Mail so much. He dug out the
VHS tape—yep, that’s right, kids!—and we snuggled through two hours of rom-com
goodness.
Fast-forward from there about eight years. This same cute
guy (now my husband) and I are lounging in bed. I’d been in bed all day and for
a good reason—round the clock morning sickness. The only thing that proved to
somewhat distract me from the onslaught of 24/7 nausea was a
marathon of romantic comedies. The hub was scrolling through Netflix and found Sleepless in Seattle. Remembering how
much I had enjoyed it that first time back in the day, he selected the movie
and we snuggled some more. Only…this time I wasn’t quite so charmed. Yes, Tom
Hanks and his son are adorable. Both the hero’s strengths and flaws are written
and played to perfection, as far as I’m concerned. However, I found it
difficult to relate or even sympathize with the Meg Ryan character, Annie Reed.
Maybe it was the negative side effects of early pregnancy getting me down.
Maybe it was the fact that I’d spent years studying up on character and
motivation and had worked hard to write properly motivated and relatable heroes
and heroines. As charming as Meg Ryan tried to make her character, I still
couldn’t get on board. First of all, she’s got a ring on it. Not only that—her
fiancé is a perfectly lovely man. Other than a case of severe allergies, there
doesn’t seem to be anything wrong with him. She brags a good bit about the man
she’s going to marry, how great he is, and how right their relationship is. All
the while, she, in essence, spends weeks stalking a stranger she hears talking about
his deceased wife on the radio. The whole time I’m rewatching this movie I’m
thinking, "If this were a book, I’d have stopped reading before the midway point."
Sleepless in Seattle
is a beloved rom-com. Like You've Got Mail, it's a Nora Ephron film. There are countless individuals who no
doubt include it on their Favorite Movies list. Once upon a time, I might have been
one of them. Which means at some point or another I let this sort of heroine
behavior go. Why? I’ve noticed through the years, particularly in modern
romantic comedies, that heroes and heroines are often allowed to do things they
would never get away with in books if they wanted to avoid crucifixion by book
reviewers. This puzzles me a bit. Why is there so much leeway for characters
like Annie Reed? Because she’s so darn plucky?
Speaking of my husband…he isn’t an avid reader nor does he
tend to scrutinize character and GMC like I do. But even he has as much trouble
watching some modern-day rom coms as I do. He refuses to watch one such movie, Because I Said So, because the main
character, Milly, dates two guys at the same time without either of them
knowing about the other. Even from a modern day woman’s perspective, there’s a
definite ick factor there…especially
when you consider that Milly is also sleeping with both of these men without
their knowing about the other.
A bestselling novel by Emily Griffin that was recently turned
into a successful rom com, Something Borrowed,
provides another example. The protagonist, Rachel, spends much of the story pining
for her best friend’s fiancé, Dex. It’s true; she saw him first in college.
It’s also true that her best friend, Darcy, is actually kind of terrible. Why then is
Rachel still friends with Darcy? Much of the plot tries to establish Rachel as
the “good girl” and Darcy as somewhat of a villain. Not that any of the above
justifies the protagonist when she begins dating and sleeping with Dex behind
Darcy’s back. Sorry, but for me, another ick factor….
Good characters doing bad things isn’t just visible in the
present—and not just in movies either. What about those infamous alpha males
from 1970’s romance novels? There was practically an entire era of
bodice-ripping alpha heroes who did bad things. How did they get away with
their forcible shenanigans for so long? Apparently because back then there was
a readership surrounding them. Otherwise, why would editors and writers let
this fly?
Going a bit further back to classic literature, we find Gone With the Wind by Margaret Mitchell.
(To the diehard GWTW enthusiasts
reading this, forgive me.) I am a HUGE fan of both the book and the movie. I
especially love the character of Rhett Butler. But even I’ve got qualms with
the scene toward the end where he gets, in his own words, “very drunk” and
forcibly carts Scarlett O’Hara up the stairs of their Atlanta mansion despite
her flailing protests. Everything fades to black and we, as the audience, can
only assume what’s happening. In the following scene, a sober, ashamed (and,
one can only assume, hung-over) Rhett
apologizes for his behavior. I admit, I’ve overlooked this part of the story
through the years because, as I’ve confessed, I love Rhett
Butler. I’ve noticed, too, that this scene isn’t widely discussed amongst other
Gone With the Wind fans. Why, even in
modern times, aren’t more people asking questions or at least saying, “Bad, Rhett Butler! Bad!”? Is it because he IS
RHETT BUTLER? Something to think about, particularly when you consider how bad
a rep Scarlett gets for her own bad behavior. Is it really any worse than this?
(*ahem* Also, Ms. Mitchell? Perhaps you could explain to me how Mr. Butler
performed so well under such heavy intoxication? This seems quite unlikely,
even for a character of his magnetism.)
A couple of years ago I read a historical romance novel set
in the Highlands of Scotland by a well-established author with many credits to her name.
The hero and heroine both intrigued me. Their romance was sexy and sweet in all
the right places. To summarize, the two wind up in a marriage of
convenience…but also in love. I enjoyed the first two-thirds of the book
wholeheartedly. Not a lot could have coaxed me to give it any less than a
five-star review. Or so I thought. In the last half of the book, the hero
sustains a head injury and is lost amongst the Highlands with amnesia. The
author then describes in detail the wild sex he has with random women along the
way. Let me reiterate the fact that this is a historical romance novel. No, it
is not erotica or anything else that would explain such explicit and socially
unacceptable character behavior. I understand that the book takes place in the historic Scottish Highlands. People and morals might have been looser
then, particularly for men. However, these wild sex scenes between the hero and
women who were anything but his wife/heroine seemed out of place, so much so that
they jolted me out of the story. (On a related note, I’m not sure a man should
engage in such wild, amorous behavior following a severe blow to the head….) When his memory finally returns and he goes back to his heroine, the hero neither confesses to what happened while his memory was lost nor does he seem to feel any sort of remorse for it. I read
reviews posted by other readers of the book who also seemed to think these
scenes were a bit taboo considering that the book was lauded by both its author
and publisher as a traditional romance novel.
How ‘bout it, readers? Have you ever been frustrated or
disappointed by a good character behaving badly? I’d love to hear your thoughts
on the topic….
Oh, and Friday I’ll be unveiling the gorgeous cover art for my October
Harlequin Superromance novel, Married One Night, at the
SuperAuthors site. Stop by for an exclusive first look at my next romance novel!
Amber Leigh Williams lives
on the Gulf Coast. A southern girl at heart, she loves beach days, the
smell of real books, relaxing at her family’s lakehouse, and spending time
with her husband, Jacob, and their sweet, blue-eyed boy. When she’s not
running after her young son and three, large dogs, she can usually be
found reading a good romance or cooking up a new dish in her kitchen. She
is represented by Joyce Holland of the D4EO Literary Agency. Find out
more at her website: www.amberleighwilliams.com.
10 comments:
I think I read (and watch movies) much more innocently than I write. If the story's well-told--or well-acted by people I like--it works for me.
A great post.
I, too, pick everything apart now. Maybe that's why I rarely watch movies...hmmm. I can't get on board with the whole bad boy persona. Yes, he can have been a bad boy in the past--if he regrets his behavior and has turned over a new leaf (if you'll excuse the cliches.) But he doesn't get to treat the heroine badly in the present, or I'm not going to read (or watch) until the end. Also, it makes the heroine look like an idiot if she's willing to put up with crap like that!
Liz, I think a lot of people do. It wasn't until a few years ago (right around the pregnancy) that I started analyzing movies the way I do books, lol
Jannine, I love a former bad boy, but only if he's well-written and well-motivated. Holt Bradford from Suzanna's Surrender by Nora Roberts comes to mind. Or, for movies, Luc from French Kiss or (speaking of You've Got Mail) Tom Hanks as Joe Fox!
I also have a problem with the 'off' behavior. I can't stop judging and do stop watching or reading what irritates me. I keep hoping I avoid this in my own work.
I pick movies apart, to a degree, but I'm probably more forgiving of bad behavior. As for Rhett, I've talked about that scene often. I love it! :) I don't believe he forced himself on her, even though he was a bit forceful in the beginning, but I'm sure she quickly succumbed to his charms. She certainly was wearing a big smile the next morning. And humming if I recall. :)
Barbara, me too! I've grown pretty picky when it comes to movie criteria. I love when a really good movie comes along and surprises me. I know it's good when I get so lost in the story and acting that I don't notice any flaws in the characters or plot. It's rare but it happens!
Alicia, I think the book addresses the details of this scene a bit more than the movie. It's been years since I read it. Scarlett was satisfied by the experience but also "ashamed." In the book, though, I seem to remember it reading more as a hot love scene than a rape scene. But like I said, it's been years....
Wow, Amber, you really came up with some great examples! I'm like you in terms of picking apart plots and characterizations now (after studying all that writer stuff). I'm with you on Sleepless in Seattle. Really?? I remember Gone with the Wind the same as Alicia--Scarlett was overcome by Rhett's manliness, in all its forms. :-) But it's definitely not PC in today's world, and a topic for a whole other discussion. Great post!
Leah, as far as Gone With the Wind, my wish is that the love scene would have been more detailed, LOL. That way there would be no need for picky people like me to debate whether Rhett Butler should be slapped or applauded. And also because if it wasn't a rape scene, that would have been some really good cinema. Then again, I realize the movie was made in 1939 and the fade to black moment was the proper way to end it....
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