One of our movie topics this month is He’s Just Not That Into You. While I haven’t seen the movie or read the book of the same name, I can guess what it’s about. Loving someone who doesn’t love you. Way back in 1972, I met a man on a blind date. Mutual friends set us up and, I’m happy to say, we’ve been together ever since. I was very lucky that he was as into me as I was him. Still am. We’ve gone through good times and difficult ones, with the good outweighing the bad. We have two terrific children who have found people who are as into them as they are.
So why am I waxing poetic? Our son’s upcoming wedding. If that movie was about him, it could have been titled She’s Just Not That Into You. Until three years ago. Hubs and I met her shortly after and were equally smitten with her. She’s gracious, easy to be with, and loves our son. It was so obvious three years ago and even more so now. And he’s head over heels in love with her.
Several years ago, I shared an office with a young woman—so young that her mother was younger than me. She’d been going through a rough time in her marriage and asked me the “secret” of Hubs and mine. Some secret. LOL This is what I told her.
There’s no 50-50 in a marriage. Sometimes one gives 100% and sometimes the other does. It can’t be one person doing all the giving.
“Please” and “thank you” are definitely magic words.
Accept the other with all their faults and foibles. I drive Hubs crazy with my not finishing one project before jumping into another. He drives me crazy when he calls a smokestack a “chimley.”
Neither of us is perfect, but we’ve found what works for us. I hope my son discovers what works for him and his future bride.
Normally, I blog on the 8th and 30th of the month. Since August 8th is the wedding, I’ve traded places with Vonnie Davis so I’ll be here on the 12th.