Happy May Day, my friends. Today, the basket I have for you isn't full of treats, it's full of secrets.
Recently my
visit on a friend’s blog invited me to explain five secrets about me that few
people know. Our novels’ heroes and
heroines wouldn’t find the assignment an easy one, because it’s their secrets
(often unbeknownst to them) that tend to get them into trouble. My hero in my new novel, CEZANNE’S GHOST was
accidentally responsible for a man losing his eyesight. Ever since the incident, he’s isolated
himself from conflict, in specific, and people, in general.
We all have
secrets, some of them not even clear to us because they are buried deeply and
come in flashes of confusing images.
Never one to let such sleeping dogs lie (in the same way we authors
force our characters to ‘man up’) I plotted with my sister to answer a series
of questions about our upbringing.
The questions
are bold and probing, so if you’re in the habit of putting your characters
through more angst than you are willing to take, this legacy survey might not
interest you. Seriously, this is heavy
stuff. Here’s a sample of the easy
questions-it’s a long, involved study! (I’ve tried to find the origin of this
survey, but can’t. Sorry):
1.
The best qualities of my mother were:
2. The best qualities of my father were:
3. The worst
qualities of my mother were:
4. The worst qualities of
my father were:
5. What I loved most about my mother:
6. What I loved most about my father:
7. My mother showed
her love for me by:
8. My
father showed his love for me by:
9.
When I was afraid, my mother/father would:
10.
When my family celebrated an event (Christmas, an achievement, etc.),
we would:
11. I often felt most secure when my mother/father would:
12. My favorite memories of me and my family were:
My hypothesis
going into the project was my sister’s answers would be 180 degrees different
from mine. She is my older sister by one
year, but I turned out to be the rebel while she remained the stolid
home-loving sort. She’s mother of the
year; great cook; lover of hearth and home.
Three wonderful kids.
Me? No kids, by choice. Edgy teacher, out-of-the-box high school
principal. Now heavy into writing, I
have a third full-blown career while my sister relishes her grandmother role.
Back to the
questions and answers. My sister and I
shared afterward. No prior discussion or
consultation. The similarities? Striking! Her views and the secrets she held
over all these years, matched mine.
We’re convinced
the experience brought us closer, but I don’t assume that would be true in
every family. Our three brothers have
been invited to answer the questions, but none of them have taken on the
challenge.
My conclusion:
All families have secrets, flaws and foibles.
It feels freeing to look at them, regard them as shared experiences and
move past them, trying not to pass on the quirky, unproductive behavior to our
children. No family is perfect, but
sharing the strengths as well as the faults of a family helped my sister and I
move on and improve. We wish we’d taken
the survey sooner, however, and hope the nieces, nephews and grandkids take our
advice to analyze their upbringings so they are better prepared to be parents
if they choose that route.
At the very
least, the questions might help you get to the crux of the issues your
hero/heroine have about their mothers and fathers as well as the problems they
have with choosing mates and parenting.
If you’re
interested in getting a copy of the whole survey (author unknown) e-mail me at rolynnwriter@earthlink.net.
Meanwhile, I’m
hoping FEAR LAND is on a course to get judged by InD’Tale. You can help bring my story to their
attention by voting for my book….May 1, today, is the Last Day to
Vote! Subscribe and log in to http://www.indtale.com/2016-rone-awards-week-two Scroll to the Suspense category and vote for
FEAR LAND!
THANKS! Rolynn
