Showing posts with label blues. Show all posts
Showing posts with label blues. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 9, 2018

I've Got the Blues by Brenda Whiteside


Do you ever get the blues? I’ve got the blues. It’s been coming on for several weeks, and the signs have been there. Ignored. Fought. But I finally succumbed.

My mom used to talk about getting the blues. I read a letter from her mother written in 1927 or 1928,
and she had the blues. The blues isn’t a female thing. There’s a whole music genre dedicated to the state of mind. But it seems to me there are different kinds of blues.

On the left, grandmother I never knew
My mom’s blues, and apparently the grandmother I never knew, had more to do with boredom, being poor, and lack of time spent with a spouse. My mom’s woeful state of emotion felt totally female.

Oh she may get weary,
Women do get weary,
Wearing the same shabby dress.
When she gets weary,
Try a little tenderness.

My state of mind has much to do with the state of our country. There are personal things that have added to the depression, but none of them are particularly bad. There is uncertainty and a state of wait and see, but I know those will all work out for the best. The waiting can be stressful. But mostly, I think I’ve allowed things I have no control over to control me.

What to do?

Let it go...for now
First, I’m tuning out. This is not my normal way to handle anything. But if I don’t tune out the negative, the constant assault of a crazy world, I’m the one who will be crazy. So, I’m giving myself a free pass for three weeks to stop worrying about the state of the world. Stop worrying about humanity. I’ve told FDW he cannot keep me informed. I need to re-center, and if he is always cluing me in on the ugliness, I’ll go stark raving mad.

Second, I’m owning who I am and how I feel and how I believe. While I’m working to get back my mojo and my happy attitude, if someone does come at me or comment to me something I feel is wrong or ugly, I’m giving it back. No more Ms. Nice. I might be tuning out, but if my efforts fall short and you get in my face, be prepared to be put in your place.

And third, I’m diving into my current novel with renewed vigor. These characters are fun. The story is complicated. They need my full attention, and they will reciprocate. I feel good when we communicate. And right now, I need to feel good.

So, as I asked to start this, do you get the blues? I’d love to hear how you beat it. What do you do to get rid of the blues?

Brenda and her husband are gypsies at heart having lived in six states and two countries. Currently, they split their time between the Lake Roosevelt basin in Central Arizona and the pines in the north. Wherever Brenda opens her laptop, she spends most of her time writing stories of discovery and love entangled with suspense.


She blogs on the 9th and 24th of every month: http://rosesofprose.blogspot.com
She blogs about life’s latest adventure and has fun guests on her personal blog: https://brendawhiteside.blogspot.com/