tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post449835943804986741..comments2024-03-27T01:07:03.944-04:00Comments on The Roses of Prose: THE JOY OF COGNITIVE DISSONANCE by Rolynn AndersonAlison Hendersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12725250883303287946noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-25856671372156514532014-09-13T08:00:27.608-04:002014-09-13T08:00:27.608-04:00Great post, Rolynn. I think your approach to your ...Great post, Rolynn. I think your approach to your decision was a smart one. If changing your way of life makes your life easier, then I feel that's the best way to go. There are still things you may miss, but it's always good to keep moving forward.Donna Michaelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06432598670605984687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-53860445488054974752014-09-02T07:59:12.930-04:002014-09-02T07:59:12.930-04:00Nice post. Yes, it was a difficult decision and I&...Nice post. Yes, it was a difficult decision and I'm sure there will be a period of adjustment, but it will all work out. I'm sure you'll make a whole bunch of wonderful new memories.<br /><br />I've dealt with cognitave dissonance a few times. Back in 2006 when I decided to move to Kansas City and in 2009 when I decided to move back home to Oklahoma City, to name a few. Both moves were difficult decisions and I had to weigh the bad with the good. The paths we take lead to where we are now, and I try not to have any regrets.Alicia Deanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12003539473772776004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-91618215942213499122014-09-01T23:08:37.186-04:002014-09-01T23:08:37.186-04:00My goodness, what thoughtful comments. I don'...My goodness, what thoughtful comments. I don't know where to start! Glenys, I like your rephrasing of the CD concepts; Betsy, thanks for sharing the men with toys story; Barb...I try not to take much luggage, but hauling any suitcase up steps is a challenge; Alison, I've been following your journey to CA...I'm so glad the choice is feeling right...even after your husband's stroke; Ashantay, I love your stealth approach to management...I should have done more of that during my high school principalship! Thanks to all for commenting!Rolynn Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09504770204968969467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-70926645916343737852014-09-01T16:36:08.803-04:002014-09-01T16:36:08.803-04:00Love this idea! Cognitive Dissonance is when there...Love this idea! Cognitive Dissonance is when there's a disparity between what your reality is and your image of what it should be. Pinning that down and making changes is definitely great decision making. Wishing you lots of fun in your travels!Romance Can Be Murderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12660460297680900886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-31949171484178744722014-09-01T13:16:52.547-04:002014-09-01T13:16:52.547-04:00I've been where you are Rolynn. We moved to a ...I've been where you are Rolynn. We moved to a resort lake in SW Virginia, bought a small sailboat, sold the sailboat (not enough sustained wind), bought a pontoon boot and spend as much time on the water as my writing allows. My husband settled in with his toys: motorcycle leading the pack. Yours will too. Keep us posted on what happens next. Remember, it's the journey...Betsy Ashtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06871010122475160477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-83855649655509766382014-09-01T11:40:26.491-04:002014-09-01T11:40:26.491-04:00What a great attitude on resolving cognitive disso...What a great attitude on resolving cognitive dissonance. Great list, but I can totally second the travel while in shape! And good luck as you make your other transitions.Barbara Bettishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16540961829243251471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-23104717908432880172014-09-01T11:20:15.691-04:002014-09-01T11:20:15.691-04:00Rolynn, your struggles with cognitive dissonance r...Rolynn, your struggles with cognitive dissonance really strike home with me. Early in 2013, we (mostly me) made the decision to pull up stakes after 25 years in Minnesota and move to coastal California. The next year was filled with upheaval to the extent that my husband managed to give himself a stroke. Now, after five months in the new house, he's learned a lot about stress management, and I'm starting to feel like I make the right decision after all.<br /><br />I wish you a much smoother transition to your new life. It sounds like you're better prepared. Alison Hendersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12725250883303287946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-66636191436932853852014-09-01T11:17:00.885-04:002014-09-01T11:17:00.885-04:00Best wishes on your lifestyle change! I wish you m...Best wishes on your lifestyle change! I wish you many wonderful adventures in the upcoming years.<br /><br />I used cognitive dissonance for years. It's a subversive tool for the corporate world! For instance, dress and talk like management while presenting ideas in direct opposition to current approaches. Doesn't always work, but gets people thinking, leading eventually to change.Ashantayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16122891967983778466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-21065904580393237762014-09-01T10:19:39.233-04:002014-09-01T10:19:39.233-04:00Leah and Diane, Jannine, and Margo, thanks for you...Leah and Diane, Jannine, and Margo, thanks for your encouragement. I worry less about my regrets than for my husband. He loves the boat...and I worry he'll miss all the boy toys and the dilemmas to solve. But he's the one who brought up the sale, first. I don't think he figured it would happen so quickly!<br /><br />Jannine, I hear you about the indie or traditional conundrum. I'm chewing nails right now about that. Diane and Margo...new houses/RV's/moving...all BIG Dissonance issues. But what's life without risk, huh?Rolynn Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09504770204968969467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-35688088608918938252014-09-01T09:08:52.887-04:002014-09-01T09:08:52.887-04:00The positives seem to have overshadowed the sadnes...The positives seem to have overshadowed the sadness. Last year, we bought a full sized (33foot) travel trailer. We're using it a lot and enjoying every minute. We used to be boaters too. It's a big change!Margo Hoornstrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00036077481652050799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-83769377234601184322014-09-01T08:34:55.560-04:002014-09-01T08:34:55.560-04:00You have a wealth of memories...and now you get to...You have a wealth of memories...and now you get to make new ones!<br /><br />I feel the dissonance every time I publish a book. Indie or traditional, I wonder if I've made the right choice. Then I try to come up with positives to validate my choice. I think we all do that as a coping mechanism.Jannine Gallanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17692098634695675967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-68339886783731465392014-09-01T08:24:22.651-04:002014-09-01T08:24:22.651-04:00What a difficult choice, Rolynn. But it sounds lik...What a difficult choice, Rolynn. But it sounds like you are at peace with your decision. <br /><br />Like Leah, Hubs & I have had to make a lot of decisions. Our latest was building our first house and moving a hundred plus miles away. After almost a year in our new place, I can say the dissonance is gone!Diane Burtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03754105332297068271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-82886986265152289212014-09-01T08:10:06.590-04:002014-09-01T08:10:06.590-04:00Well, it sounds like a difficult decision, Rolynn....Well, it sounds like a difficult decision, Rolynn. But it seems like you took your time and reasoned out your choices, and hopefully you'll have a bunch of new and different adventures to keep you busy when next summer rolls around. :-)<br /><br />Hubby and I have faced many decisions of the years that had us doubting, and feeling more than a little apprehensive. I like your explanation of cognitive dissonance.Leah St. Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11004006100786260893noreply@blogger.com