tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post1512062908184068014..comments2024-03-27T01:07:03.944-04:00Comments on The Roses of Prose: Parenting the adult "child" ~ Leah St. JamesAlison Hendersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12725250883303287946noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-40014763952491731942017-03-11T13:34:57.768-05:002017-03-11T13:34:57.768-05:00Oh my gosh, what a moving and amusing post. I love...Oh my gosh, what a moving and amusing post. I love the way you tell stories. :) I guess if we didn't have such trying times with our kids, we wouldn't enjoy the good times so much. LOL. Alicia Deanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12003539473772776004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-39069719899583170962017-03-07T18:52:58.761-05:002017-03-07T18:52:58.761-05:00Thanks so much, Brenda! I hope you enjoy the story...Thanks so much, Brenda! I hope you enjoy the story. And yes, kids have a real knack for knowing just what buttons to push to get a reaction, don't they? The principal at my sons' high school told me that boys have a need to act out as they get ready to go out on their own. In their minds, they have to make home so miserable and unlivable, they have no choice but to leave. I don't know if that's true, it seemed to explain quite a bit! :-)Leah St. Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11004006100786260893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-23529858314541917422017-03-07T10:42:09.819-05:002017-03-07T10:42:09.819-05:00First, Leah, your blurb intrigued me and I've ...First, Leah, your blurb intrigued me and I've ordered it. Secondly, oh how I know. My son provided more than a few restless nights for me. He's good to the core, but he pushed the envelope so many times. I remember when he was in middle school I said to my father something about breathing easier once he got past 18. My dad chuckled and told me the worry never goes away. Brenda Whitesidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04162555468154752820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-83143658310617208092017-03-07T06:25:50.488-05:002017-03-07T06:25:50.488-05:00Thanks, Rolynn! I never really thought about paren...Thanks, Rolynn! I never really thought about parenting from the conflict perspective, but you're so right! And yes, there is much fodder for stories. :-)Leah St. Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11004006100786260893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-77864053117949160482017-03-07T06:20:34.626-05:002017-03-07T06:20:34.626-05:00So glad to hear Tara is on the mend, Jannine! (Wow...So glad to hear Tara is on the mend, Jannine! (Wow, she's some athlete.)Leah St. Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11004006100786260893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-20210590973869214422017-03-06T22:55:03.866-05:002017-03-06T22:55:03.866-05:00Whew! Since my husband and I don't have kids,...Whew! Since my husband and I don't have kids, I'm vicariously living through your amazing experiences...no wonder you have a lot to write about...and the conflict! Through the roof!Rolynn Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09504770204968969467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-17912110770036828822017-03-06T20:38:29.082-05:002017-03-06T20:38:29.082-05:00Leah, Tara's elbows are basically healed thoug...Leah, Tara's elbows are basically healed though not 100% for a while, according to the doctor. She did race in a triathlon yesterday and got 7th place, so I'd say they're close enough! I'm glad I inspired such a great post!Jannine Gallanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01047728297429025804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-24313144373265551712017-03-06T17:16:14.228-05:002017-03-06T17:16:14.228-05:00Oh Diane, there's nothing worse than a sick ch...Oh Diane, there's nothing worse than a sick child, no matter the age. I can't imagine watching your child unable to breathe. And how nice...sort of (you know what I mean) that your son can now appreciate what you went through.Leah St. Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01738532052396774131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-80743589612261764762017-03-06T17:14:03.501-05:002017-03-06T17:14:03.501-05:00I thought the same thing when my firstborn was an ...I thought the same thing when my firstborn was an infant, Andi. I was one of those parents who used to creep up to the crib and oh-so-gently place my hand on the baby's back to make sure he was breathing! Let's face it--there's no "era" of parenthood that doesn't have its terrors, and luckily its joys. :-)Leah St. Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01738532052396774131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-70214279993546371512017-03-06T17:12:25.214-05:002017-03-06T17:12:25.214-05:00Alison - that is such an easy driving mistake to m...Alison - that is such an easy driving mistake to make, especially for the younger, driver. (Not that I speak from experience!! Ha!) I'm so glad there were no injuries in your daughter's accident, but going to court must have been terrifying for you both. Leah St. Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01738532052396774131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-13121185597724865142017-03-06T17:07:19.695-05:002017-03-06T17:07:19.695-05:00Wow, Vonnie, you've given me some great ideas....Wow, Vonnie, you've given me some great ideas. Son No. 1 (which is how I refer to the older one...our prototype model :-)) says he wants NOTHING for his birthday. No cake, no dinner out, nothing. Of course I can't do NOTHING. I might have to sneak a few things... :-)Leah St. Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01738532052396774131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-73827557973753196852017-03-06T17:05:48.942-05:002017-03-06T17:05:48.942-05:00Hi, Jannine - What got me thinking about this was ...Hi, Jannine - What got me thinking about this was your comment on one of Donna's posts (January?) where your daughter had fallen and broken both elbows! (I think...if I remember correctly.) I remember thinking how awful that must have been for you and your husband with your daughter off at school! (BTW, hope she's all healed by now!)Leah St. Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01738532052396774131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-61448103238234564622017-03-06T14:00:36.291-05:002017-03-06T14:00:36.291-05:00What a great post, Leah. Our son gave us a lot of ...What a great post, Leah. Our son gave us a lot of grief (over mostly small, but stupid, stuff) as he grew up. But the worst were the many trips to the ER for asthma attacks. Last Thursday night (after we got home from AZ), he & his wife took Toddler Girl to the ER--rapid heartbeat, difficulty breathing. The doc said virus, put her on breathing treatments, and sent her home. When son texted us what happened he thanked us for all the times we took him to the ER, adding that it was a lot easier being the patient than the parent. I never wanted him to go through what we did, but I'm glad he now understands how scary it was for us. We worry about our kids no matter what the age. He's just learning.Diane Burtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03754105332297068271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-40136558363459264202017-03-06T12:22:07.535-05:002017-03-06T12:22:07.535-05:00I remember a friend telling me when my daughter, C...I remember a friend telling me when my daughter, Cristal, was a baby that you never stop worrying, the problems get bigger. I replied I couldn't imagine worrying more than about whether the baby was breathing or not! Of course, I've lived to eat my words. With Cristal it isn't so much incidents like you describe, but rather the things she has taken upon herself--working for three months in a Bolivian prison, treking for a day through the jungle to meet with Colombian guerrillas--that sort of thing. Part of her forthcoming honeymoon is in Mozambique. I'm already worrying...Andrea Downinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11553961600937196102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-90597348321187107642017-03-06T12:10:35.309-05:002017-03-06T12:10:35.309-05:00PO & O is thirty now, but neither of us has re...PO & O is thirty now, but neither of us has recovered from her one brush with the law. She was sixteen and driving my car to a friend's house to work on a school project one Sunday afternoon. Long story short, she decided it was safe to turn left across a busy street because she couldn't see anyone coming toward her. However, there was a little hill she couldn't see over. A doctor in a Mercedes convertible sped up to make the light and smashed into the passenger-side door, knocking her across the intersection and into another car. No one was hurt, but my three-month-old car and the one she hit were totaled. She was deemed to be at fault and ordered to appear in juvenile court. My baby in juvenile court!!!! We were both terrified. I hired a lawyer, who got the whole thing basically dismissed, but we were both scarred by the experience. She's never had another ticket or accident, and I doubt she ever will.Alison Hendersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12725250883303287946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-83868365736645797642017-03-06T11:15:44.409-05:002017-03-06T11:15:44.409-05:00Awesome post, Leah. I could relate to every word. ...Awesome post, Leah. I could relate to every word. Believe me! My "babies" are in their mid to late forties and, yeah, Mom still worries. Mom still does little things--just because. I don't pry. The kids seem to like it that way. What they want me to know, they tell me. I listen. I also listen to the tone of his or her voice. Sometimes I send a little something in the form of a check with a note to "spoil yourself on Mom." The need to nurture never leaves.Vonnie Davis ~ Romance Authorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07360480832587538895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9023937099212820339.post-54599692712060827492017-03-06T10:34:45.371-05:002017-03-06T10:34:45.371-05:00Some hilarious stuff here, Leah...well, except for...Some hilarious stuff here, Leah...well, except for the joyride. Yeah, we don't stop worrying as they grow up. There's just more to worry about. More decisions and heartache for them. That's how life works, and you hope the good times balance it out.Jannine Gallanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01047728297429025804noreply@blogger.com